WE’RE HAVING SEX IN PUBLIC BEHIND A BUSH IN A FIELD, IS IT WRONG?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 years, things happend and at the moment we are unable to stay over at each others houses, so we meet up once a week and more than likely end up having sex, in public behind a bush in a field!.. my friends think im crazy and that its a cold thing to do and takes all the meaning away from sex, which is true in a way, but we both get horny and bored so it just happens.

Is its not wrong! its normal to feel like that. as long as ur not goin at it in a really public place where ppl will actually see everything!

Answer

i would try and sort things out so u dnt have to do this tooo much tho.

but sex can be fun and done pretty much anywhere- trust me!

sex is something that can really connect two ppl and i can see tht continues sex in a bush can lose the meaning - but to be honest id try and sort things out so u dnt hve to do this all the time - but you are not wrong if u want to just have sex - thts pretty normal

hope things get sorted out soon for u xit wrong?

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MY BOYFRIED IS A FLIRT

How can I get a boyfriend? I flirt with guys who I like and they flirt back, I know that a lot of guys like me so how do I get one of them to be my boyfriend? I don't know why no guy has asked me out yet.

I talk to lots of guys and I like 2 guys and well I talk to one of them almost everyday, but I don't really like him that much, I do like him a little bit.

The other guy who I like I talk to once and Awhile but I like him a lot more then I like the other guy. Only thing I haven't gotten a chance to talk to him that much cause he doesn't walk home very often. So any advice would be great.

Answer

It doesn't always have to be the guy who makes the first move - ask one of them out, go see a movie together, go get a coffee or something. It might be nerve-wracking, but keep in mind that it's just the same for them.

No ones likes to make themselves vulnerable to rejection, but if you never try, you'll never know.

Either way, don't be in any hurry to get a boyfriend. You have YEARS and YEARS to do the dating thing - lads will come and go. There's no rush.

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IS TRUTH SPOKEN WHEN DRUNK?

Is it true what you say drunk is what you have been thinking when sober?

Not necessarily, hun. That's a bit of a myth. A lot of people are more uninhibited when drunk but a lot of people can hand you a 'line of crap' too, when they are drunk. In other words, there sense of right and wrong is blurred and distorted due to the effects of the alcohol and they can do the opposite.....they will lie.

If someone told you something when drunk, that you always wanted to hear from them, take it with a 'grain of salt' and think rationally. Never believe a drunk person!

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MY MIND’S IN TURMOIL,I’M MADLY IN LOVE WITH AN OLDER MAN

I am a 20 year old female doing UG course in a college.

I am madly in love with an old man who is 65 years old. I call him uncle. I know him from childhood and he is very close to our family. In the college I am an introvert seldom mingle with oppo. sexes. Having almost no friends. I have no father, and mother is with another man. I have no brothers or sisters. From childhood I used to spend lot of time with uncle. He is all to me. Recently I slept with him. (He never requested to do so) He did foreplay for me on my request and refused to have sexual intercourse. He masterbated for me and I orgasm twice. He treated me like a small child. Why he refused to have intercourse which I needed very badly that day. He has no wife, and one son married living in other place. My mind in turmoiled and cannot concentrate on my studies. Please Please advise me.My mind's in turmoil, I'm madly in love with an older man!

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... Although you have feelings for that guy, it honestly doesn't sound like its for the right reasons. I'm sorry you're having trouble finding friends, but it happens to the best of us. Don't just settle for someone you know, especially since he's been a family friend and he's that much older than you.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but do you think maybe you have feelings for him since you're father was around? Just asking this cause I was in a similar situation and didn't realize what I was doing till after the fact. My father was barely ever around growing up and the second I started dating, I was looking for older men. I originally thought it was because I was more mature than most guys my age, which I still believe to be true. However, all my friends thought I was nuts, but I craved to have someone older in my life that I could learn from too. But once I started seeing someone that was 40 when I was 21, I understood why I was feeling the way I was.

The other thing is that something doesn't sound right with that guy. If he was around when you were a child and he still wants to be "with" you in a sense, that's not good. Sounds borderline incestuous. Did he act like a father figure to you? Just seems like you're going a bit too close to home.

I don't know all the details and all, as I'm not you, but if I were you based on what you mentioned, I would get away from that situation. Its honestly not a healthy one.

Also, why do you feel like you don't have any friends? Could you try to join a club at school or something? College is supposed to be a time for personal growth too, a chance to work on your social skills as they'll be critical to your success no matter what you go to school for.

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HOW DO I GET STARTED?

ok so me and my bf have been together for a year now and when were alone were very intamate(culding,kissing,making out)he has fingered me we have talked about having sex and both of us want to how do i get us started?

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Hey dear. Just read your problem its the same as mine. We both felt were ready but didnt know how to go about. I came to realise it happens spontenous. That day we engaged in some serious foreplay until we couldnt take it anymore and that when we did it. It was just the bomb! Goodluck dear and stop worry on how youll start

Quesiton

Is there any way I can stop my jaw getting sore during oral sex?

This is a little awkward to ask, but what the hell I suppose.

I really enjoy giving blow jobs to my boyfriend. I love that I can get him off that way. But I always find my jaw gets incredibly sore after a while, so I have to stop, and that's no fun for anyone. Is there any way I can stop this from happening, or is it just a matter of 'practise makes perfect?'

Answer

Combine your hand around his penis and your mouth over the head and use them together in one motion, you can take a break when your jaw gets tired but keep your hand moving. Make up for your mouth not being there by extending the stroking of your hand to the tip. And keep the shaft well lubricated too. Mix it up a little until he lets you know that you've found the right combination and rhythm.

Have fun! Be safe too.

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SHOLD I ASK HER TO BE MORE AFFECTIONATE?

Hi,

I wanted to know if anyone has any advice for me.

I'm a 21 year old male involved with a 20 year old girl. This is the first relationship for both of us, and we're 2+ months into the relationship, although we were good friends for years before that (hence when our relationship started, it progressed rather quickly because we already knew everything about each other).

Ever since we each went home for summer break, I've noticed a decrease in her outward sense of affection towards me. In these past 2 weeks we've talked and videochatted every day, but she never says I love you to me and i always have to say it. Even when I say it, her response is simply devoid of emotion. She doesn't contact me unless i contact her, and even though she says she loves me, she doesn't do anything to back it up. It's very frustrating because I try to send her sweet or fun texts or emails or calls and I get nothing in return.

My concern is my next step: should I tell her this? I am an affectionate person but I also really need affection to not get frustrated. And she knows and admits she has a problem expressing herself. But her lack of non-initiated contact and her lack of affection makes her appear indifferent to our relationship.

So should I talk to her and ask her to be more affectionate? Isn't that silly, to ask someone to change in such a way (i.e. isn't it then fake whenever they DO act affectionate?)? Or could it be that our personalities simply aren't compatible and we shouldn't be together?

Any help or advice is VERY welcome and appreciated.

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sorry got things mixed up there. but I guess the principle is the same, you are still trying to figure out why she has changed.

If it is at all possible try and see her personally, it is a big thing you are going to say to her you need to see her in person when she replies I believe.

Something serious could just be on her mind or maybe you are even overreacting a little if you have only been back 2 weeks you may be jumping the gun a bit.

the only way you are going to find out is to ask.

Of course you could ask in a round about way. Maybe ask her simply how things are at home? But you may just get a vague answer and be back at square one.

I would arrange to see her, make a day of it, picnic/movie/dinner whatever, just the two of you.

good luck